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We understand dating. And we get relationships. Our collective professional experience spans clinical therapy, personal coaching and meeting with hundreds of single men and women to help them figure out how to date better.

Grace Lee

Online Dating Consultant & Co-Founder of A Good First Date

Emory University · University of Cambridge

About Me

NYC via England, Hong Kong and Shanghai...cat, dog, son (17), daughter (15) and minivan (embarrassing). I spent most of my adult life overseas in a career in banking, and later, as an entrepreneur. This experience gives me the perspective to better understand business professionals, especially single parents, in the dating world.

Grace Lee

Online Dating Consultant & Co-Founder of A Good First Date

Emory University · University of Cambridge

I Love My Job Because

I’m drawn to people’s stories, especially the details! I’m a detective, digging for the info that will bring your profile to life. When we put the right pictures and text together, magic happens. There’s nothing better than seeing a client get out on that good first date.

Grace Lee

Online Dating Consultant & Co-Founder of A Good First Date

Emory University · University of Cambridge

When I'm Not Working

I’m cooking for my insatiable teenagers or walking my ferocious 5 lb. Havanese poodle, Cookie. I’m big on learning. I recently (re)started piano lessons and belong to two book clubs. (Next up: “Where the Crawdads Sing.”) Because I spend time with kids at home, when I’m off duty I like to get out – the movies (not Netflix), live music – any immersive, in-person experience. Travel also ranks high. My next trip is to Miami for a music festival with my brother, and after that a family trip to Japan! Tips anybody?

Grace Lee

Online Dating Consultant & Co-Founder of A Good First Date

Emory University · University of Cambridge

The Key To Successful Online Dating Is

Having a killer profile, one that’s interesting and fun to read, with pictures that tell a story about you! If you’re not in love with your profile, then don’t expect your match to be, either. A great profile leads to better matches and text conversations, which ultimately lead to a good first date! We’ll work with you to make sure you get off of the app to meet people IRL!

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Rachel Perlstein

Dating and Relationship Coach, LCSW & Co-Founder of A Good First Date

University of Illinois · Loyola University Chicago

About Me

NYC via San Francisco, originally from Chicago...I live in Manhattan with my partner (Dave) and my dog (Lola). I spent nearly ten years working as a psychotherapist before getting trained as a professional coach. My experience gives me the ability to see things through a psychological lens, but as a coach, I focus on helping people turn their insight into action, resulting in designing new thought patterns and behaviors to achieve their goals. I truly believe that everyone deserves to connect with their inner badass, and I love putting people back in control of their dating lives.

Rachel Perlstein

Dating and Relationship Coach, LCSW & Co-Founder of A Good First Date

University of Illinois · Loyola University Chicago

Why I love my job

The work with our clients is transformative.

Modern dating really impacts the way people view themselves and the pool of potential matches. Oftentimes, when people start their work with us, they’re some combination of frustrated, pissed, anxious, confused, underwhelmed or overwhelmed.

The best thing about my job is when people start to recognize their worth, gain the confidence to pursue the partnership they want, learn new things about themselves and start to go on dates with people they’re truly excited about.

Rachel Perlstein

Dating and Relationship Coach, LCSW & Co-Founder of A Good First Date

University of Illinois · Loyola University Chicago

When I'm Not Working

I’m probably outside somewhere. Whether walking Lola along the Hudson River, watching the roller-skating dance party in Central Park or hiking upstate with Dave and friends, I feel happiest when I’m surrounded by nature. I also love to write fiction (I’m currently working on my second novel!), drink Michter’s bourbon (neat) and check out live music (extra points if it’s a small venue and some kind of indie rock).

Rachel Perlstein

Dating and Relationship Coach, LCSW & Co-Founder of A Good First Date

University of Illinois · Loyola University Chicago

The Best Advice I Have About Dating & Relationships

Embrace your authentic self and adapt a growth-oriented mindset. In short, be you, and think about each person you date as a learning opportunity. The truth is, there’s no universal rule book for dating and relationships. While there’s an overabundance of advice and “how to’s,” you have to create your own roadmap. The only way to do this is to figure out what you really want and need, identify the obstacles that stand in your way, create a plan and put yourself out there!

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A Good First Date is a great place to start.

A good first date is a great starting point and an achievable goal on the road to a lasting, long-term relationship. Our work is rooted in the belief that you don’t need to change who you are – to lose weight, look younger, make more money – to find a great relationship. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Great relationships happen when you show up as yourself and open up to other people.

But it can be hard to trust in being yourself. That’s why we take a mindful approach to dating – one that involves reflection, clarification and a roadmap for success – to help you find a meaningful, lasting relationship in which you can be you.

What can A Good First Date do for you?

Our clients say it best.

“Grace and Rachel helped me navigate the complicated world of online dating. They taught me the subtle things to look out for in a guy’s profile that tell a lot about who he is. They will give you the secret decoder for when you’re tired of swiping and want to narrow down your pool.”

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"They gave me examples of opening lines and how to begin texting with someone, bypassing the boring conversations so we can really learn about each other – and so I can stand out from the other girls on the apps."

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“Just a few weeks after working with Grace and Rachel, after talking to many guys and going on a handful of first dates, I met the guy for me. I’m so grateful for their advice and expertise.”

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"After working with AGFD, the way I date and my outlook on dating has completely transformed.”

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“Before contacting AGFD, I had deleted dating apps and was suffering from a sort of dating fatigue. I knew I needed to make changes and start using dating apps in a more healthy way.”

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“I was hesitant about letting strangers into my dating life. We dove right into my dating history and the conversation flowed so easily. It was like talking to trusted friends, except they brought 10 times more insight and experience.”

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“I knew right away I had two expert allies behind me, and I walked away empowered to date again!”

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“I have been going on more dates and with partners that I am excited to meet! I am in awe of the transformation that has happened in front of my eyes.”

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“No longer am I lamenting why I am not going on more dates. Now I face different challenges, like being authentic on dates, how to set boundaries, not measuring myself against others or overcompensating. It’s a work in progress, and for the first time in a very long time, I am excited to be on this journey.”

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“Thank you, Grace and Rachel, for keeping me accountable, allowing me to see myself – both faults and strengths – and being the coaches I didn’t know I needed.”

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Learn to date better.

We take a new approach to dating. Our process helps you see why you keep taking wrong turns or arriving at dead ends. In a dating culture that’s highly transactional and asks people to be something other than who they really are, we think the solution is in being your authentic self. When you take the time to pause, reflect and make a strategic plan, your dating roadmap can lead to love.

Learn more about our approach.

Identify

Identify what you need in a relationship.

Meet

Meet the right people.

Date

Date confidently.

Navigate

Navigate relationships successfully.

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